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Dear Breakup Girl,

So about a month ago I decided to start dating again by becoming acquainted with an inocuous friend of a co-worker over dinner and drinks. The first time we went out I was vastly amused by the conversation, but no sparks. The second time was sparkier and by the fifth time we were having some of the best sex I've ever had for an entire weekend. A little quick, I know, but the major problem is that although I initially thought I just wanted a chance to be charming and have some summertime frolicking, I am getting attached. He broke off an engagement after a 7+ year relationship last year and does not want a girlfriend.

Do I just end it, cutting off my nose to spite my face? Or do I at least enjoy the mind numbing exploits, try to be patient and see what happens even though I may grow to more than like him?

Noteworthy: I am 30 years old, most of the men I meet have been maimed or damaged from past relationships, my timing is never good, and I usually just end things at the first sign that it won't work without giving the man a chance to change his mind. Also, I know I'm not unique, but I am quite wonderful and growing less so every damn time this happens.

-- Hopeless in Seattle

Dear Hopeless,

I hear you about your timing/ending patterns. But what will make you feel least wonderful of all is trying to date someone whose mind you have to change in order to do so. Take my advice to El Gato (not to mention Camille's shoutout) and enjoy all the non-mindnumbing pursuits Seattle has to offer. It's a [new] start.

Love,
Breakup Girl

PS Also, you didn't hear it from me, but let me know if you want to meet El Gato.

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