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SHOUTOUTS

To JB from Been There Done That:

My poor poor dear. Your so-called friend and former girl of a few weeks seems to be only a rebound relationship. You have always be there for her, and that is what she needed in her time of despair. Of course you loved her and went for her, but the right thing would of been to tell her, "Hun, I think you're great and, as much as I'd love to be with you, I can wait till you're honestly ready." But, of course, love is very blind and many of us play the fool. Many people will tell you to just get over it, but yes, we know it's easier said then done. So here's my shoutout: really get over her. You say you're old, but your heart is young. It's taken one beaten, and now is the time to learn from it and grow stronger. If she was the one for you she would still be here now ..... remember that. And even though you say you haven't had many girls, well, she has shown you what you have to offer. So learn from that and go out in the world and give it all you got. Good luck and stop dreading!

To Enuff Already from Scratch My Head,

My heavens, girl: cute, smart , funny and HBO? Ooh, ooh, ooh choose me! (Of course, I'm 39 yrs old so I guess you're laughing your pants off again, eh?)

Hang in there; it sounds like you're quite a catch and some decent guys will soon start to figure that out. Just Scratching My Head at the men currently in your life.

To Jennifer Aniston I'm NOT from Sei:

Let your guy go. Trust me on this. I've been there, done that, bought the T-shirt, and the original cast recording. BG is right: trying to build a relationship with a guy who's fighting his own instincts is nothing short of a lost cause. No matter how much he may care for you, no matter how much he wants the kids and the picket fence, if his biological imperatives are driving him towards other men, trying to do otherwise will only let you and him both in for a world of pain and agony.

To Derick from Datil:

Just a note about your therapy experience: sometimes a BAD therapist is worse than NO therapist, and it sounds like you found one of the BAD ones and did the right thing by walking away. Or maybe that person was just not someone you would ever be able to work with, but could be effective for someone else. All I'm saying is you shouldn't write off the counseling idea because of one bad experience. I actually had a therapist say to me once, "Don't say 'like, you know' when you are talking because I'm trying to stop saying it and if you do, then I will too." It was my second and last appointment with her. I kept looking and eventually found someone that I stuck with for four years until I moved out of state. She was phenomenal and I credit her with guiding me through the work it took to figure out what was going on in my head and helping me put it in order. And a note about the meds--talk to the doctor again about the knot in your chest .I tried one of the newer antidepressants and it did the same thing to me and gave me all kinds of nervous energy. That's no good. Turned out I just needed a minor dose of another drug to counter that, and then it worked like a charm. Getting my head together is the single best thing I ever did for myself and ALL of my relationships--those with friends, family, and romantic. Good luck and don't give up.

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