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Dear Breakup Girl,

Last week I served my husband with divorce papers, (I found out he wanted a divorce in September, but due to some passive- aggressiveness on his part I ended up being the one who filed) and vowed never to date/marry/touch another man again for the rest of my life. I would be "Happy Single Woman," the envy of all my peers, able to go away for the weekend whenever I want to, decorate my place however I feel like it, take that job in heavenly Hawaii, you name it.

Then I made the mistake of checking out the on-line personals for my area. Ok, maybe I'm not 100% sure about never getting involved again. D'oh! On-screen at least, this guy is the stuff my dreams are made of.

BG, should I contact him, but be up-front about the fact that there's >90 days until I'm a Free Woman? My therapist has the rule that you should wait for two years (?!?) until you even date again after a divorce. Believe me, I've done my two years. The past two years (not counting the post-"I want a divorce *letter*") have been absent of all affection from my s2bx-husband. I'm ready for some romance in my life again, and don't feel like waiting 2 more years to get it.

-- Ready for Romance

Dear Ready,

Given what you say, two years may be excessive. But at least wait until you click here.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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