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Dear Breakup Girl,

I have such a problem. Do you remember the young man who asked you about long distance relationships in the Miami Barnes & Noble? Well, I'm the other girl; he wants to stay in contact with her but be snugglebunnies with me. I'm so attracted to him; I think the world of him. However, he is so much of a gentleman that I don't know know what to do. He hasn't made one move in my direction. I'm not sure if he is being nice or if he is just getting his feminine fix. I wish we could go farther than snuggling and holding hands. I'm not asking that he give up his first love, just that he find some room in his heart for me. Is that wrong? Do you think I'm barking up the wrong tree?

-- Rae

Dear Rae,

Wait, so you were there? He asked me that in front of you? Or he told you that he asked me? Huh. Well, let's see. Often, the point of having a so-called "snugglebunny" is to have a euphemism for doing everything but snuggle. This "gentleman," on the other hand, seems to be doing the "Thank you, Ma'am" without the "Wham, Bam." Which, in my estimation, means either that he's doing the "not that kind of guy" version of the fem fix you describe, or that he LIKElikes you -- LD girl notwithstanding -- and is taking it slow, hedging his bets, calibrating his coordinates. Just guesses. But if you see things moving forward, you can eventually ask that they move forward only with you. How do you go that distance? I'd suggest finding a cute -- but clear -- way to make your desires known (like, tell him you're giving him this book to help him "find room" in his heart for you). With any luck, he'll see the benefits of having someone only a bookstore seat away.

Now do you all see what kind of drama unfolds at these things?

Love,
Breakup Girl

 
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