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Dear Breakup Girl,

My husband and I have not lived as a couple for over a year now; we are trying to sell our house and will divorce when it sells. The problem is that we both have to live in the house as friends until it sells because neither of us can afford to live here alone. We can get along as friends as long as we stay out of each other's personal lives, which is fine and dandy. The thing is that I want to meet someone and whenever I tell anyone my story, it scares them away because no one calls back (or, if we do date, then it doesn't last very long). But my hubby didn't have a problem finding someone who obviously doesn't care that he still lives with his soon-to-be ex-wife.

--Candy

Dear Candy,

Oh, you do need to find someone as soon as possible. Like, a kickass realtor. And a divorce lawyer who'll start yesterday. Look, I'm glad that you guys have a relatively tenable, amicable setup. But really, you will not be able to move on until you move out. I don't mean put the moves on someone, I mean move on. Which, rebounds notwithstanding, requires some space. Like, more than however many square feet in which you and your husband are currently dodging each other.

By the way: maybe it looks like your husband had less trouble "finding" someone who can deal with his ... roommate. But who's to say what her motivations are? Maybe she's into the built-in live-in less-than-100% commitment. Maybe she's married.

Anyway, it's time to do a little thinking outside this cramped box you call home. There are two bedrooms, right? Rent one out; split the cash. Heck, his girlfriend can move in for all I care. But please, Candy, for your sake: your house is built on top of a relationship burial ground. Which means: "Get out!"

Love,
Breakup Girl

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