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Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend and I met via a classified ad on the net. After 3 weeks of correspondence, we met at a local restaurant and hit it off right away. I moved in with him 3 months later, and all was terrific until a month ago when he started calling me by his ex's name during sex and while watching TV; he even wrote her name on a note he had left for me. When I talked to him about it, he shrugged it off by saying that "she was probably in the back of his mind somewhere because their divorce papers are ready to be signed next week." He swears that he doesn't think of her when he calls me by her name, that it is just a habit because he was with her for 7 years. Well, I don't call him by my ex's name, and I was with him for over 5 years. Am I insecure? Jealous? CRAZY? I don't know, but it is a problem that I would like to work out. I shouldn't be griping about this one thing because everything else is great, but it bothers me. I'm wondering if I should try to ignore it and have patience with him or dump him and find someone else?

--Missy

Dear Missy,

He TALKS while you're watching TV?!

Oh, also, about the name thing. To be fair, his explanation is plausible.

As long as yours is.

In other words, is everything else great, Missy, is it? Does the rest of his behavior truly indicate that no matter what's in the back of his mind (or -- and this would answer the question -- his car), you are in front ? You tell me. Even if Buffy's on.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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