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Dear Breakup Girl,

I'm only fifteen, but I'm sorta in a not terrible yet sticky situation. My boyfriend, Zach, is a year older than me (i.e. sophomore). He and I have been friends since we were four and five years old. We started going out last October, and we broke up around June 10th. During the spring this year I had broken up with him twice. The second time I broke up with him he apologized for what he had done and asked me out. So, since June, we'd been going out for almost eight months. We're both kinda the jealous type, especially him. (That's how we west-Texans are!) Well, when we decided to break up a few weeks ago, we agreed that we would still talk to each other on the phone and other stuff like that (friend-wise). Well, before I went on a family vacation a week ago, I called him to talk to him before I left. He asked me why I keep calling all the time. I'm sorta an obsessive girl. But we agreed! The reason we broke up was because he said he wouldn't be able to do anything with me at all this summer. I'd been getting frustrated because he couldn't do anything with me at all since school's been out. His dad needs him the majority of the day to help him with the farming. (Bigger deal than it sounds.) So we broke it off since he said I'd be a lot better off this summer if I were able to look at other guys and do stuff with some of my other guy friends. (He was trying to make it sound like this was for the better for me.) Well, when I got home from my vacation, I hoped he'd sent an e-mail, phone call, something. Well, nothing! He's totally dissing me, we were best friends! From what I hear he's already checking out a lot of other hot babes. He's not the go-get-drunk-party type, but he is a popular 200lb football player and good friends with a lot of senior guys. Very cute and very tenderhearted. I don't want you to think he's a mean killin' machine. He never did anything I wasn't comfortable with. We did do a lot of affectionate "things" but we both agreed we wanted to save sex for marriage. I just don't think his mom and dad would keep him workin' all summer like that. Never get to go out with friends or girlfriend, three months in a row? His parents are longtime friends with my parents and I know they aren't that cruel. I'm saying I don't think he's telling me the whole truth about why we should break up. I haven't been this hurt in a long time. He was my first "real" boyfriend. I plan on going out with him again in the future as long as he learns you can't do this to girls. We had a lot of stupid fights during the school year, mainly over jealousy. I'm a varsity cheerleader and play every sport my school has to offer, so does he. I guess what I'm trying to say is I still want to be friends with him but he hasn't given me the chance to all summer. It's kinda like loosing your best friend all of a sudden. I know, I sound like a big baby, but I'm just one hurt and confused teenage girl. Please, help!

-- Krunch

Dear Krunch,

I totally get why this guy seems like the mean killin' machine of your summer and your heart. But some people need a vacation between more-than-friends and friends. Maybe this kind of turnover isn't his thing; maybe that's how this west-Texan is. Let him know you'd like to hear from him; give him the chance to be friends. For the rest of the summer, try and, let your pre-existing friends lead the cheer.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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