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Dear Breakup Babe,

How does one break up with an era of their life? In other words, how do I come to terms with the abuse I dealt with for years, how do I deal with the (ex-) friends who will have nothing to do with me, and how will I keep the boyfriend who saw me through it all and with whom I still have a wonderful relationship?

Love,
Kissy-poo

PS: Please don't tell me to seek therapy. Not only am I completely sick of it, but Dr. Katz ticks me off.

Dear Kissy-Poo,

Answer's in your letter: you break up with the era. Couldn't have come up with a better suggestion/metaphor myself. Meaning: decide it's time; cut off contact; know that those odd moments when you miss being Abuse's Girlfriend are normal pangs for the comfort of -- even painful -- familiarity, not reasons to go back. Which should make boyfriend keepage no problem ... as long as you make sure not to squiggle him in as your own Dr. K.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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