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Dear Breakup Girl,

Visiting where I grew up, having a long phone chat with a friend, children interrupting from the other end of the line, I decided it's time to do more about this being alone stuff than I have been doing.

How, when I get back home, do I get my friends there to introduce me to some potential more-than-friends without it sounding to them like my definition of having a lot (or even a little) in common is "she's single, too" (unsolicited setups usually seeming to be put together this way)?

-- Just Visiting

Dear Just Visiting,

Hah, you know, sometimes I catch myself doing that very thing, especially as in: "You're gay? Wait, I know someone gay! You two should meet!" Duh. But really. You may be right about some unsolicited setups, so why don't you solicit some from certain select friends? As in: "Hey, do you know any smart, funny, dog- and anchovy-lovers? Oh, who are single?" Be specific. Then -- like, when he says, "No anchovies, please" -- flexible.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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