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Dear Breakup Girl,

I've been seeing a woman, "Ellen" for about a month and I was really starting to like her. We live down the street from one another in New York City's Manhattan borough. We have a lot in common, and seem to match up well both spiritually and physically.

Problem: I have to move because the guy I'm subletting from is moving back after 2 years.

I found a great place for myself, but it's 35 minutes away in another borough, Queens. The first few weeks we were seeing each other there was some possibility I'd stay in Manhattan. I'm happy to move, though, because I found a great 2-bedroom for only $800/month and it's not that far away.

Now I see "Ellen" has been distancing herself, and she doesn't deny that's the reason. My first reaction was to say to hell with her and what I perceived to be a snobby attitude. Then I thought about all the women I shied away from because they were "geographically unacceptable."

Since we match up well in a lot of ways, should I stick it out? Or is my first instinct -- to "get outta Dodge" -- the right course?

-- Geographically Unacceptable Peter/ Who Might As Well Live on the Moon

Dear Peter,

Also, you might as well have called her "Elaine," as this stuff-of-Seinfeld situation is Oh So New York. I mean, even us Brooklyn people fear Queens. But: distancing herself because you are? Huh. This would be one thing if she followed a no-outer-boroughs dating policy --- as perhaps you have in the past -- as a pre-sorting method. Whatever. That's her prerogative. But my feeling is that now that you've already been dating, if she really were in it for the long haul, then she could/would deal with the 35-minute one. And if she's that snobby, then I hope when she moves she gets stuck with 646.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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