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Dear Breakup Girl,

I am a 16 year old girl and have been dating a college freshman on and off for about 2 years now. Those two years have been filled with much more than an average married couple! We've been through numerous breakups and many crises. There has even been some physical abuse and the whole relationship turned bad at some point. It was so bad that we broke up for a couple of months.

After my boyfriend went to college, he contacted me to tell me that he realizes the things that went wrong in our relationship and I am the love of his life. I believed him and we got back together about four months ago. But at college, he can only put a minimal amount of time into me and come home only once a month. It's been absolutely wonderful up till not but he does not fulfill promises and forgets about many of my needs. Like when I say that I don't like something he says okay, but he does it anyways, claiming it is a part of his inherent personality. He also has a very dominating personality which comes out whenever we have any conflict. I just don't know what to do about this..

I think that I wouldlike to break up with him but after two years of intenseness and working out all of our problems, it seems almost like we're engaged or married to each other.

Before you respond, I would like to add that we are not normal 16 and 18 year olds. I think that we are extremely mature for our respective ages and would appreciate a real mature response!

-- Anny

Dear Anny,

I'm sure you're both quite mature. Mature enough to know that having put a lot of work into something doesn't mean you can't let it go.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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