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Dear Breakup Girl,

Should I go back out with him? I broke up with "Garrett" because I didn't feel like I could give him enough time. He doesn't understand my dedication to playing the bass clarinet in band or being in a play. He doesn't see why I spend 11 1/2 hours a week at band practice and the same ammount at play rehearsal. He got kicked out of band for not coming to a major 5 hour Saturday rehersal. I really like him though, because we went out for five whole months. All was good (except a few bitter fights) until now. What should I do?! My best friend even enrolled me in the Fiona Apple Society for the bitter because he says "You need to get over the possessive jerk." Help me!!

--Crawfish

Dear Crawfish,

Well, if you were to go back out with him, what would be different? I mean -- while every busy couple has to make fair compromises when it comes to finding time for each other -- I assume you're not going to change your rehearsal or practice schedule for any boy, especially one who doesn't think you're da bomb for doing those things. I also assume that you yourself weren't blowing him off in the rare moments that you did have discretionary time ... in which case he wouldn't really have been holding your attention in the first place. So unless there's some major shift in interest that's about to take place -- without compromising either of your other interests -- you guys are playing some song that ends with a "repeat and fade." That's the bass -- as in bottom -- line.

Love,
Breakup Girl

PS Fiona Apple Society? Hmm. Okay. Just make sure you're eating enough.

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