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Dear Breakup Girl,

Every possible reason for me to want out of this relationship is there-- but I don't know how to let go. I was in love with Joe for four years-- since I was eleven. We have been best friends since we were little-- we've done everything together. I promised that I would always love him-- and I was sure that was what I wanted-- but almost six months ago, Joe moved away--3,000 miles away. I hardly ever talk to him anymore. I feel like I don't know him anymore. Joe has meant more to me than any one person has meant to me in my life- and I don't want to lose him--but I do lose him-- a little bit every day. I forget about times we've shared, or little things he would do in different situations. I know that I should let go. But I don't know if I can, or if I really want to. Please help me! Thank you!

-- Kate

Dear Kate,

Make a Joe Journal. Write down the stuff you feel like you're forgetting: that night at Bowl-Mor, how he liked his grilled cheese. Glue in scraps of stuff you shared: the receipt from Rushmore, threads from the sweats I know you retained. Spend hours on it. Maybe even a weekend. Then close the book.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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