< PREVIOUS LETTER   ||   NEXT LETTER >
 

Dear Breakup Girl,

Why do we obsess???????? Meaning, a guy treats you like crap, and instead of saying "what a jerk" and moving on, you continue to be beaten down about it. You think about all of the bad stuff that happened and keep him in your thought process. I have had the worst luck recently with Guys. I keep meeting and then dating the Losers of the world. It must be a gift! Then it turns out crappy (as I have chosen LOSERS) and I obsess. I cry and think how stupid I WAS rather than placing blame on the one who deserves it. Why can't we look at the situation for what it really is and congrat ourselves for no longer being involved with such stupid people? Instead we OBSESS, and think it must have been our faults..Or is this just Me?

--Whatever

Dear Whatever,

Why? Because obsessing and blaming (whomever) -- not to mention sticking to a familar, if icky, pattern -- are way easier than having relationships.

Love,
Breakup Girl

< PREVIOUS LETTER   ||   NEXT LETTER >