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Dear Breakup Girl,

I am so confused! I'm in love with this guy named Matt. He is the man of my dreams....great body, wonderful eyes, beautiful smile, and an awesome personality! He interned at my church last year whenI was in high school. We spent so much time together and had a blast because we are both so crazy. For example, we took the youth group to a concert and then pulled the church van into a parking lot, blasted disco music, and got out and danced forever. One time he took me and this other girl home and said "hey, I feel like picking up a hitch hiker" so I told him to stop the car and ran up about 20ft. he pulled up and said "hey pretty lady, want a ride?" This other girl thought we were nuts but it just that we have so much fun being silly together. Get this, he dressed up, with the checkered pants and all, to go to putt-putt and he brought his own club...it was so cute and funny! Not only do we have a good time hanging out, I also love the way he cares about everyone. He wants to be a youth pastor or a camp director (he loves the outdoors and kids and so do I) When he was the intern I couldn't date him because I was in high school (it was kind of like having a crush on your teacher even though he's not that much older than me at all) This summer I took his job and became the intern. It was eye-opening and I have even more respect for all that Matt had to do. Now we're both in college and I see him when he comes home from school at church...his parents go to my church and they love me. So, you would think everything is simple wouldn't you -- we're both free to see each other now and everything.

Well, it's not that easy because Andy is in the picture. Who's Andy? Well, Andy is my ex and he's still a good friend of mine. We go out every once in awhile and I care for him very much also...we have so much history together and we know each other so well. He'll always have a special place in my heart....but how do I move on? You see, they both go to my church and know each other. I don't like Andy any more than a great friend. Last time Matt came home we were trying to talk when Andy showed up and put his arms around me. So Matt just backed off because he thought there was still something going on between me and Andy. Uh, Andy sweetie, I love you but leave me alone when my Matt is home!!! Ahh....if only he was my Matt : ) So, how do I still hang on to Andy as my buddy and have Matt be my guy. I would like to know if Matt even still thinks of me as someone he would like to date. They are both really wonderful guys and I love them a lot. I'm 19, Matt is 22, and Andy is 18. I seriously would like to even marry Matt...he is everything I want in a man. Now if only that could happen.....Oh well, what do you think? Am I in an impossible situation? Please help me as much as you can, thank you!

-- Donna

Dear Donna,

If Matt is that sweet and uninhibited and fun and caring, he won't freak if you -- gasp -- drop a big fat hint that a certain pretty lady with a not-so-checkered past might want a certain former intern to be more than a disco partner. If he -- gasp -- is not interested, well, that will be a [temporary] nightmare, but least you don't have to see him all the time. But try to do or say something, kiddo, because I don't want your love life at college to go putt-putt while you're waiting and hoping for the boy from home. My only other concern: just don't let him wear checkered pants to the -- gasp -- wedding.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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