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Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend came down from school on Thursday for Valentine's Day weekend (I live in DC). We had a wonderful weekend. He sizzled my heart with all kinds of events. On V-Day itself he went back to school, as he had classes on Monday. I managed to get his password to his answering machine. To my surprise there were two females on his answering machine thanking him for the balloons he sent. In anger and tears I drove 3 hours to Philly. He made up some bogus lie. We've been together for seven years. I decided to break up with him...was my idea a smart one?

-- Infinite Deep

Dear Infinite Deep,

Ugh! Balloons are not exactly going to be festive items for you any more, are they?

If you're sure that the message wasn't from, you know, his little cousins who just had their tonsils out, then no, it doesn't sound like this relationship is going to stay the distance. I'm sorry. I'll spare you the lecture about listening to his machine (just some key words: bad! wrong!). But. Before you head out to find your next heart-sizzler, listen carefully to your own messages. What -- besides, say, a telltale receipt from "Words Fail You? Send Rubber! Inc." -- made you suspicious? Was he giving you cause, or were you giving yourself a hard time? Not trusting him to be faithful? Not trusting that you were worth being faithful to? It just might be your own sense of love-worth that needs inflating right now.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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