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Dear Breakup Girl,

My predicament regards a big broken heart, and a best friend whom I haven't talked to in over two months. There were many elements that baited the silence, such as subject "A", the guy I was dating at the time whom didn't get along with Pooh (my best friend) because she knew that he was bad news and I didn't listen (listen to your friends!!!). Then the stressors of school started to hit her, and she became distant, almost possessed at a time when I needed her badly.

She also has an older sister, Rabbit, who is a year older than the both of us, and is great at giving advice, and also a great person to talk to, and we hung out every now and then. The thing is, Pooh found this to be an invasion of her space and took it REALLY personally, e.g. telling both parties to stop calling each other "just 'cause." This tells you the basics of Pooh's nature-- the fact that she is scared to have anyone leave her kicks in too.

So now, it's Valentine's Day, and we have spent the past four hours with a 26 oz of Jack Daniels beside the river. I have a great boyfriend, school is going well, home life is working out, but I just have this incredible gap in my tummy, heart and soul from not having my baby, my soul sister here to enjoy it with me.

So I'm off now to the zoo for a picnic, but I just can't get into it. Pooh is as stubborn as hell and so am I, and I called two days ago and left a message, but she hasn't called. What should I do? I was thinking flowers (she doesn't like chocolate, sick girl, and it is Valentine's Day), but what can I do that will make her acknowledge me?

Am I completely at fault here?

Does it make it worse if I'm the one to say, "Hey, I miss you like heck?"

Help! Tell her I'm sorry!

-- Tigger

Dear Tigger,

Pooh: Tigger is sorry.

Now go do it yourself. You didn't do anything wrong, really, but if you want to make things right, well sure. Don't try to "make her" acknowledge you; don't tell her she's "stubborn," don't tell her she's "scared." Tell her (write a note?) what you told me. About you. You know, about the "gap." About how you even wrote to Breakup Girl about missing her. About how you told BG's jillion readers -- because of what you learned from her -- to listen to their friends. And just hope hope hope hope she listens to you.

Love,
Breakup Girl

PS: Watch it with the Jack Daniels as liquid friend.

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