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Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We met at college, and things were WONDERFUL until he decided to bring me home to meet mom over Spring break.

Meeting his mother was an absolute nightmare. When he would leave the room, she would make rude comments to me, and while we were all together, she would start her sentences with things like "I know you THINK you're in love" or "I see how you're taking my baby away from me."

When we had been together for almost a year, we decided we would live together the following academic year. Breakup Girl, we're 20 and 21, and capable of making our own decisions. The people who know us best would describe us as very much in love. However, somehow, his mother ripped all of his confidence about us living together apart, and he backed out at the last minute. I was devastated.

That was the first time he's pulled something like that. Unfortunately, it seems that every time he goes home, we get into a huge fight, and his mother attacks our relationship. Just recently, now that we're both home for winter break, I got the call from him saying that he was planning on not coming back to school next semester because "His mom needs him." AAAAAAAHHHHH!!

Their relationship is beyond strange. My boyfriend seems absolutely powerless and so easily influenced by his mother. Without her in the picture, things would be perfect. What in the world do I do?

-- Alli

Dear Alli,

Weeeee-hhheeeeird. But I gotta tell you, even if mom were to, um, conveniently disappear, there'd still be trouble in paradise -- she'd still be muttering, alive and well, in his head. Belleruth, as our Resident Expert, says this one's too far gone/out for you to fix. Belleruth, as a Normal Mom, says this split was "a blessing in disguise." Easy for us to say, but, well, remember: there are lots of moms out there who are only too happy to pair their sons off.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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