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Dear Breakup Girl,

Hi it's me again, formerly known as "Shy and Confused." Remember? I'm the one with the long distance boyfriend, Greg, in the navy. Well, things were going fine with us, despite the distance, until he came home. now I have a new problem. ok, his flight came in at about 6:00 on a Thursday night. we had planned that he would come over to my house that night to see me. Well I waited by the phone, and I finally got a call around 8:30. Something came up with his car insurance, and he couldn't get insurance for only 2 weeks while he was home, so he couldn't drive, and therefore, couldn't come over. That, I can understand, but he didn't even seem like he really cared one way or the other whether he saw me that night, or the next day at school, with everyone else around. I don't know, maybe I'm crazy for thinking that. but anyways, it turned out that I didn't see him till the next day, when he came to visit everyone at school. No big deal, I guess. So we decided we were going to do something that night, but first he had to go have dinner at his grandparents' house. So he called at about 8:00 Friday night, and I asked him if he wanted to still do something, but he said "Well, I can't drive so I can't really go anywhere," or something to that effect. I understood, and told him to call me after he went shopping the next day, Saturday, so we could plan something. He agreed, but I never got a phone call. It was 5:00, and I figured he'd be home, so I called him instead. It turns out he *just* made plans with his friends and was having a bunch of them over to watch movies. This just pissed me off because 1) he forgot about me altogether, and 2) didn't even think to invite me to come along. I mean, i don't really know many of his friends, so I can understand why he might want to do something with them, without me. But if he really loved me as much as he said he did, wouldn't he want to be with me as soon as possible once he had the chance? I mean, we hadn't seen each other in like SIX MONTHS! So what the hell? I was going to talk to him about it, but first I talked to my best guy friend about it. He said that Greg probably didn't mean anything by it, and if I wanted I should talk to him, but it was probably an innocent mistake. so I never did talk to him about it, because I wanted to avoid any arguments I could when he was home. Plus, he sounded sincerely apologetic on the phone, and told me that he would save monday just for me. So he came over after school on monday and things were cool. Then, because of family things, I didn't get to see him again till the next Saturday. I went over to his house, and things were ok, but then one of his friends called (I think it was a girl, who knows, who cares) and he talked for a few minutes, then said he had to let them go because he had company over. *COMPANY*?? I didn't know he referred to me as that low of a status, geez. again, I talked to my guy friend about it, and he told me I shouldn't worry about it. so I didn't. then I didn't see him again till the next Thursday. Things were ok then, and he acted fine and everything. Then he left to go back to the Navy on Friday. I was doing ok, but then I talked to one of my friends. She had talked to this girl, Julie, whose sister once went out with Greg, I guess. Anyways, I guess Greg and Julie's sister were talking when he was home and he said something like "I wish I'd never let you go...I'd take you back if I could." I just found this out recently, so I haven't had a chance to talk to him about it yet, but I 'm definitely going to. But I'm so confused, because I talk to my girl friends about it, and they think it's pretty bad, but when I talk to my best guy friend about it, who always tells me the truth, he said he might not have meant it like that. But if he didn't mean it *like that,* then how did he mean it? I don't understand, and I don't know what to think about it. Please, please help. I really love Greg and I don't want to break up with him unless he doesn't want to be with me. Am I crazy for getting so paranoid about these things? Or am I right to think things and am I crazy for staying with him? I really don't know what to do. I'm just so confused. Any help would be really appreciated. Thanks, BG.

-- Shy and Confused

Dear S/C,

When a letter has to go into that much detail (phone logs, etc.) only to prove that someone sort of wants to be with you sometimes, it answers its own question. Sorry, kiddo. It's time for me to tell you to keep company with a real keeper.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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