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Dear Breakup Girl,

I don't know if this is true, but my best friend's fiance is going around and telling his best friend that he is sleeping with three other girls.

I was sworn to secrecy not to tell, but this other friend is also very dear to me. What should I do?

-- Cyndi

Dear Cyndi,

Okay, so how reliable is the "best friend" who told you? (As reliable as the fiance?) Hrrrrrm.

Cyndi, you've got to put on your cutest girl detective outfit and get some ironclad evidence. Clear testimony from a reliable source. If this is really happening, someone will talk (someone already has). Heck, confront the fiance if you must.

IF you can get that, then yes, you tell her. BG takes promises seriously, but: Your Best Friend "Would Want To Know"* trumps Sworn to Secrecy by Some Gossip Monger Who Can't Possibly Think You're Not Gonna Tell Your Best Friend in the First Place.

A couple more things, though. Unless the fiance is sleeping with all three women at once (I mean, at once), which I wouldn't put past him, I must say that -- if only for pure logistical/time management reasons -- I suspect your friend...suspects. And even if she doesn't -- and even if she is willing to believe you -- she might not do anything about it. Got that? She might not leave. And alas, you can't make her. People make peculiar choices. So you can tell her, but I'd rather you not, at any point, tell her "I told you so."

Love,
Breakup Girl

* If nothing else, for safety reasons! Yikes.

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