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Dear Breakup Girl,

I've been dating Mr. Wonderful for several months. We seem perfect together; made for each other. He's the one, no doubt in my mind.

Until...my ex-boyfriend of two years (and just before I met Mr. Wonderful), claims that my guy is being unfaithful. He has gone into great detail, naming dates and times that I can't verify. I know Ex wants me back, but is there any possibility he's honestly looking out for my best interest? I feel horrible for doubting Mr. Wonderful, and he is very hurt that I would even listen to Ex. Mr. Wonderful has never given me any reason to doubt him. I want to marry him. But Ex has planted the seed of doubt, and it's destroying our relationship.

What should I do? I'd hate to throw away a perfect relationship over some lies but, what if???

-- Elly

Dear Elly,

My instincts -- and our own Belleruth's -- tell me that your pending search for a wedding photographer is not the only frame-up job going on here. As Belleruth says, "If I were Mr. Wonderful, I would be indeed sorely offended that the Ms. was having serious -- and highly suspect -- conversations with The Ex about my fidelity. Never mind his loyalty; double-check yours."

Elly, if you let this persist, your bumbling detective can win this case without evidence.

So unless his endeavors have unearthed some seed of proof in the world, or gut-trusty suspicion on your part -- something way beyond a vague, "Oy, what if...?" -- then show him the door for the last time and focus on all the evidence you've got for Mr. Wonderful's name.

Love,
Belleruth and BG

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