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Dear Breakup Girl,

Recently, my 25-year-old boyfriend of three years went to a Britney Spears concert that he was covering for the local news. He was in the front row ... all but three feet in front of her. When he came home, all he could talk about was how she was crawling on the stage in front of him; he even brought home some video from the concert to show me. (I could have cared less.) She is beautiful and, while I am not ugly, I do not have anywhere near as good a figure as she does. Am I just being silly for being so jealous? I also sent him an e-mail at work explaining my feelings of insecurity, and he never responded.

--Hannah

Dear Hannah,

It may be silly to be jealous of Britney Spears herself (I mean, she's no Benazir Bhutto). But I can tell you why you're (a) jealous, and (b) not necessarily being silly. Fluffy silly-me "Oops, I Did it Again" jealousy is normal, but sometimes, that little ... pixie could be telling you something. Seems to me that for some reason, the stage you guys are standing on doesn't have enough security to begin with. Do you need more reassurance than you should -- or are you not getting the reassurance you need? I think it's a little of both ... especially given that he didn't respond to your e-mail. I think that's mainly why you're jealous. You wouldn't care -- as much -- about his watching Britney crawl if felt that he'd look and listen when you approach.

Now, again, he could just think you're being silly, especially if this kind of thing comes up a lot on your part...which, to be frank, could get annoying. So have a conversation. Not about Britney; about the, um, substance underneath. Do you need more from him? Does he need less from you? E-mail my heart and let me know how it goes.

Love,
Breakup Girl

 
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