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Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend and I are not speaking at the moment. The reason is that I've kind of been harping on him to go to the gym and now he thinks it's because I don't think he's sexy. Actually, it's because I am a nursing student who is made aware -- in each class I attend -- of the dangers of being overweight and not exercising. Anyway, last Saturday morning, I found that he had eaten a whole box of granola, and I was disappointed because he obviously didn't care if anyone else wanted any because he had eaten all of it. I said as much to him and now he won't speak to me. What should I do?

--Maria

Dear Maria,

Talk about "resistance training." If only digging in one's heels against "harping" burned calories; he'd be fit as a fiddle. Maria -- no matter how healthy (literally) your motives -- the more you push, the more he'll ... sit very, very still. Especially if you push in the form of micro-berating him for minor granola misdemeanors (which seemed to bug you more in the realm of manners, anyway). If you're in this for the long, strong haul, focus on encouraging/exemplifying -- not enforcing -- healthy eating and shared physical activities and, speaking of which, showing him how sexy you think he is (right?).

Love,
Breakup Girl

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