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Dear Breakup Girl,

Almost two years after I break up with a girlfriend, she finds some photos of me that she took (normal G-rated pictures). She sends them to my parents. I retrieved the photos from my parents, who are mildly miffed because they think they're nice pictures. Maybe so, but they were taken of me by her within the context of our relationship. I don't have a problem with her keeping them (it was her relationship, too) but I do have a problem with her sending copies to other parties. What do you think?

--Overexposed

Dear Overexposed,

Easy, there. I can understand why you might be smarting a bit from a "Wow, two years, and she still really wants me outta there" feeling. (I mean, I'm assuming you mean that she was unloading them, not just finally getting around to making copies?) But your parents are not "other parties," they're Switzerland. Neutral ground. A buffer. The middle man and wife. Given that she felt the need to send them in the first place -- which I admittedly don't quite get -- it would have been a little weird, maybe, to send them right to you; she'd have to have written a much trickier note. In any case, I see no need to hang on to the negatives, if you know what I mean.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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