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Dear Breakup Girl,

I broke up with my boyfriend over a month and a half ago. We had been a couple for only a month, but we have been friends since long before that. He is a mess, though, and it complicates EVERYTHING. First of all, he lies a lot (sometimes just to fit in, sometimes to draw attention to himself, and sometimes because he wants to sound good or keep from hurting people). He has lost a few of his friends that way. He also bounces around from relationship to relationship on the search for "the one." The crappy thing is that he still likes me, and I still like him. We broke up because of his need for "space" to reconfigure his kinda-screwy life. But if we tried again, how would I know if I was making him happy? How will I know if he really likes me or if I'm just another girl and the same thing will happen all over again?

What makes it even harder is that we are cast opposite each other in an upcoming play. There are kissing scenes, mostly, and a lot of looking into each other's eyes. I have the main part, and I'm NOT backing out. I don't want to get suckered back into this if it isn't real, but how do I know?

--Natalie

Dear Natalie,

Arguably, we all bounce around on the search for "the one." And there's really no way to be 100% sure how he feels or of what would happen if you got back together. All you can come close to knowing is how you feel in the role of his girlfriend. As well as you've probably come to know him by now, if you do go for a second act, you'll probably be able to sense whether or not he's just feeding you lines. And if not, as far as the kissing scenes go, bet you're a better actor than he is a liar.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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