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Dear Breakup Girl,

Okay, I never send in questions since I generally find that the answers to most of the questions sent to you are pretty obvious. However, this is more of an inquiry into statistics. I'm seeing two women right now. One, whom I've been seeing for the past three months, is leaving for med school in August, and we've agreed that we don't want to do long distance, though we like each other a lot. The other has been my "real" girlfriend for over a year and a half. We have been away from each other a lot in the last few months, as she's been in Europe and is now doing her medical residency in a state not too far away. We have an unspoken "don't ask, don't tell policy," and neither of us is the jealous type. To be honest, we're both pretty huge commitment phobes. I know I don't love her in the Romeo and Juliet sense, and I know she feels the same. We also don't have amazing sex. I mean, it's good, but I've had better with a number of people. The point is, we both seem to be nearing a turning point re: our futures, and I'm wondering whether we'd be too close to "settling" if we stayed together. She has a bunch of qualities I absolutely love, and she is really low maintenance; she's pretty, very smart, and puts up with my crap. So I guess the question is, do you find that a lot of couples that marry/stay together without having serious passion (for lack of a better expression) end up working out? I'm asking because I know the reverse is not true for me. The other woman I'm seeing is nice, etc. and maybe the best sexual partner I've ever had, but I know that in a few months I couldn't deal with her so I'm convinced that my cerebral approach is the best. Of course, I could just be an emotionally damaged, lazy ass.

--Moleboy

Dear Moleboy,

Well actually, this one's pretty obvious.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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