< PREVIOUS LETTER   ||   NEXT LETTER >
 

Dear Breakup Girl,

A few months past, my girlfriend broke off our relationship to be with another man. That was painful, but the realization that ALL my ex-girlfriends have left me for other men dwarfed that initial pain. I consider myself a gentleman who attends to their every need. My guy friends have told me that they break up with me because I'm too much of a wuss. They continue to say that I should become a macho control freak; women say they hate it but they secretly love it. When I've asked my platonic ex-girlfriends, they say it was their fault that the relationship ended, it was nothing I did. The fact that all six major relationships ended this way makes me feel it's my fault, and I don't think acting like a macho jerk will help any future relationships. HELP!

-- Stuck in a Bad Loop

Dear Stuck,

I don't know who your guy friends are, but I won't be needing their phone numbers. You're right about not taking their advice at face value. Still, as far as what they're telling you, there might be a matter of leading, not following, once in a while, of not waiting for her to say "I need" before you say "Let's!" And finding women -- they're everywhere -- who overtly love that.

Love,
Breakup Girl

< PREVIOUS LETTER   ||   NEXT LETTER >