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Dear Breakup Girl,

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he's acting very apathetic. He used to dress up in a cute suit and take me dancing -- now he alternates between rushing around finishing projects (he's a freelance graphic designer) and lying half dead sprawled in front of the TV This is horribly depressing. I discovered that his behavior improved when I went over to his house nightly and showered him with love and attention. This worked great, except I couldn't help but think that he should be picking me up in his car instead of me TAKING PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION across town to see him. He's picked me up maybe a total of 3 times in the last 2 months to go out on a date. Why am I putting up with this? Because when we're actually together he does say nice things and act appropriately. What can be done?

-- Rexy

Dear Rexy,

Well, I don't think he should come pick you up ... just so you can go do your behavior improvement project. Also because his spark plugs are apparently working a little too well. Arrange to meet him at the Roxy; have a ball. Then have a talk about what's missing for him. He'll probably say "Nothing." Then tell him what's missing for you. 'Cause this is one case where clothes and cars might actually mean something.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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