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Dear Breakup Girl,

This is a classic case of a person falling for their best friend of the opposite sex. Well that's what happened to me. He's absolutely wonderful. He treats me better than even my best girlfriends do, and I have known them for about 10 years, and him for about one. He is the sweetest thing on earth, and I have fallen head-over-heels in love with him. The only problem is, he's 18 and going to the state U, 45 minutes away, in late September, and I'm 15 and will be starting sophomore year in high school. I know he has feelings for me too, but he told his friend that he couldn't go out with me because he is 18 and I am 15. I don't think it is THAT big of an age difference, and if we tried hard enough and cared about each other enough, I feel that we could make things work. What can I do to convince him of this? Any ideas on how I can change his mind?

--Katiebaby

Dear Katiebaby,

What I really need are some ideas on how to -- without dismissing your feelings -- change your mind about trying to convince him. Listen, Katiebaby, I'll bet he's the bee's knees. But what you're gonna run into is not age difference, but life difference. He's gonna be all the Big Man going off to the U. right now, which makes 3 seem like 21 in summer-before-college years. And the minute you get to college, I promise you, high school seems like Romper Room (except for the fact that it's so scary at first that all you want is Ovaltine and your mommy). I hate to make you feel young, I hate to make you feel hopeless; I hate to sound like the big old dumb, well, Romper Room lady telling you that there will be so many good doobies in your class next year! But that's what I feel I've got to say. And in the meantime, what's up with your girlfriends? Were you just trying to make a point, or are they really that lame? I just want to make sure that you all -- the ones who are not going away -- are trying hard and caring about each other enough. If not, well, those are the friends you need to upgrade.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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