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Dear Breakup Girl,

After being in a drought for a year and struggling in a "relationship" with a commitment-phobic guy for a couple of months, the status quo has done a 180.

Now, in a huge about face, he is neurotic with love for me. He is one of my best friends, although I am not 100% sure of my feelings for him. I am attracted to him, but I have some reservations. I feel somewhat barbed as the situation has gone farther than I would have wanted it to go... in retrospect.

The trouble is that I have changed from dateless, sexless, mediocre girl to the hottest thing on the block in the matter of a month for no obvious reason. My confidence is soaring which only compounds the issue. The problem is that I am tempted by the prospect of something better.

As usual, my desire for commitment is inversely proportional to my desirability.

What do I do?
-- Girl Jerk

Dear GJ,

I don't know why his attitude did a 180, but you can see the cause and effect between his and yours, yes? If I were you, I'd enjoy -- rather than act on -- your hotitude while it lasts (which, ideally, it will). I mean, it's been what, a couple months with this guy? Unless you're really just telling me in cute code that you want out, plain and simple, then note your temptation and file it away, at least for the time being. I mean, just imagine feeling like the hottest thing on the block because -- not in spite -- of your commitment to your main man. I just want you to realize that -- whether in this relationship or the next -- desire and desirability can be parallel lines. That meet.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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