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Dear Breakup Girl,

I really do need some help! It all started in 6th grade. I sat next to the most amazing guy in Reading class. Brown hair, blue eyes, he definently fit the description of tall dark and handsome. We became friends but all the while I have been wishing that he would fall for me. He still hasn't and I have tried so hard to be just what he is looking for! I have been myself and everything, but it still hasn't worked. In 7th grade, I asked him out about 5 times. I stopped that after he turned me down time after time. Finally he decided to go to the school dance with me. I was so happy!!! Just the day for me to get the stomach flu. I was completely crushed! And that night he hooked up with the girl I told to keep an eye on him because I couldn't go, Which made me even more crushed!! They dated for 2 month straight. Then the next year we got to be really good friends with me still hoping that he might fall for me!

The next year this girl moved in who I became friends, we both shared a huge crush on him. And then I bet you can guess what happend, she got him and dated him for another2 months. All the time I was the mediator between there problems. I figure stay helpful and he will see how caring I am. Oh he saw it all right, but he still didn't notice me. So then this year over my Birthday he called, before my boyfriend did (whom he is Best Friends with) to wish me a happy birthday (and just to add my bf never called let alone ever told me because he forgot, and I dumped him 2 days later for different reasons). He took me the next day to get a birthday slushy at White Hen. He rode his bike a mile in 90 degree heat and walked another mile to White Hen with me. Then we went back to my house and watched Half-Baked (nothing happened). Just had a good time and stuff. So then when school started this year (freshman year) he is super sweet to me. And just lately, he has kissed me, told me I'm looking really good, hugs me talks to me, e-mails me, and even told me he wants to meet my dad, and he even told me he loved me (only as a friend). Plus he offered to take me to Burger King after school when I had to stay for a game. Yet when I ask him he tells me he doesn't like anyone and is enjoying the single life, which I was too, but now I really want a boyfriend and I know we would be great together. All I want him to do is see how much he is missing by not noticing me sooner. He is the nicest and most caring guy I have ever met, and I would do anything for him! I know I should get over him, but it seems like every time I come close he draws me back in with something he says or something he does. I just am absolutely head over heels in love with him. What should I do?

-- Still Waiting

Dear Still Waiting,

Okay, White Henry may be the nicest and most caring guy you have ever met, but he is not the nicest and most caring guy you will ever meet. That guy will not play games with you if he knows you like him. And, ideally, that guy will like you back and not be afraid to show it. So, Still, if he means that much, then quit slushying around and ask him if he likes YOU. Maybe he's changed since seventh grade -- who knows, he might just have been shy (and I think he still is now). But if he's still not going to come through for you, please stop calling yourself Still Waiting and start looking for your next Fry Guy.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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