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Breakup Girl Presents:

(Volume One)

Dear Breakup Girl,

I fell in love with a co-worker last year. You might say we worked too well together. We fought the feelings for three years because we're both married. My husband got transferred and we had to leave the area and move far away. I was ready to leave my relationship for him but he doesn't believe in divorce (in hindsight, I wish he didn't believe in extra-curricular activity) because of his kids. What happened to me was foolish because my 30th high school reunion is this summer and here I sit broken-hearted.

Please tell your readers that what might start out as a "fling" can escalate to love -- and heartache -- when one or both are married, and leave one in a untenable situation where one's is living with someone and loving someone else. It doesn't work, very bad for the brain and body. Basically, everyone gets hurt, even the innocent who don't know because the people involved become emotionally absent from their families. Family members sense something is wrong, but don't realize what it really is. If you do this, like me, you will have no one to turn to (your relationship is a secret, remember?) and even if you do tell someone, people are going to think ill of you and call you a home-wrecker or worse. And even if the guy says he loves you, and writes you and shares his most intimate feelings with you, it's an unsuccessful relationship.

You ask him to leave his wife; imagine the rejection you feel when he says he cannot. I'm warning you girls: if you're married or if he is, stay away -- do NOT break your heart like I have. I'm in therapy to try to break off the relationship. Wish me luck -- I'm trying. Then there's the percentages. Women who have affairs usually want to switch partners, men overwhelmingly don't. My therapist spent a lot of time researching this. The odds are 10 to 1 against a man leaving his marriage. ARE YOU GIRLS LISTENING?

If you met me you would never believe in a zillion years that I am...

-- Unfaithful

Dear Unfaithful,

If it makes you feel any better at all, your letter is the reason why this week's theme is ...

Affairs.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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