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Dear Breakup Girl,

OK, I really like this guy named "Mike." Last year, he asked me out, but since I didn't like him, I said I already had a boyfriend, which I didn't. Now I really like him, but I'm afraid to ask him out because:

a)We're in seventh grade! Where would we go?
b)I've never been on a date before and last but not least...
c) On the "social status food-chain," he's at the top, and I'm in the middle.

Help!

--Dollar

Dear Dollar,

Oh! I'm so glad you asked. I get so many letters from teens who are like, "So I'm going out with this girl/guy. We never go anywhere." Well then why do you call it "going out?!" BG's inner grownup is dying to know.

To be fair, though, I know there aren't a million places you can go, or get to without getting sweaty on your bike, or embarassed to be with your parents. But I don't know, could you meet at the movies (have parents drop you off half a block away)? Go biking or inline skating together? Make Shrinky Dinks? In any case, it's clear to me that not having any where to go hasn't necessarily stopped your peers from "going out." Green light there.

And about that food chain? I hear ya. It's scary. But you never know. He could be sick of the girls at his "level;" he could not care in the first place. And you know what? Grownuppy as this sounds, look: he asked you out once. If his opinion of you has "changed" because of all of a sudden he's a bigger guppy, then actually, you've got better fish to fry. So why not tell Mike your boyfriend's out of the picture -- and we'll all hope he still has excellent taste.

Love,
Breakup Girl

 
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