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Dear Breakup Girl,

I didn't date or anything for seven months and this guy I occasionally work with asked me out. I told him right off that I don't want to be alone anymore; his response: well, you shouldn't be. We started dating right after Thanksgiving. We live one hour apart. I thought he was perfect: 36 yeards old, no kids, never been married that I know of. I'm 35, divorced mother of a 15-year-old girl. Tired of the bar scene and so is he. Problem is, we only see each other on weekends. We stay either at his house or mine. Well, on New Year's he decided to go to his buddies' party without me. And he just told me a couple days before via e-mail. But he says after the holidays we can get together. It is hard for us to do anything outside because my boss said no more interdating, as there have been been too many problems at work. What do you think I should do?

-- Yvonne

Dear Yvonne,

Well, that is bad manners. It's unclear why you would have been barred from the buddyfest in the first place, unless it was "36 and up" only, or (gulp) "other women he's seeing only." But here's the thing about office romance. In order for BG to give you the green light, it has to be the kind of epic love that would make spending New Year's together a given. Also -- even when you work with someone "occasionally" -- it has to not be against the boss' rules. Or if it is, then it has to be worth approaching the boss and explaining why said epic love is worth an exception. Or at least a transfer. Hate to say nay, Yvonne, but as hard as it is to find a partner after you've been divorced, it might be even harder to find a job after you've been fired. Though this guy's right on one account: you shouldn't be alone. Hold out for someone who won't so readily leave you that way.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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