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Dear Breakup Girl,

What's this "no poaching" rule [letter from Hoping + many others -- BG]?

Isn't there a saying, "All's fair...yadda yadda yadda?" Now, I've got an ironclad rule against dating anyone that ever dated friends of mine, but if I don't know the other guy, then as far as I'm concerned, even an active relationship is only a speedbump if I like the girl enough. I think I'm generally considered, by both sexes, to be a pretty good guy (thoughtful, loyal, trustworthy, etc.), but since I almost always hold your thoughts in these matters in the highest regard, I'm feeling a little angsty that my sense of interpersonal ethics isn't quite as high-minded as I had thought. As you've probably guessed, I'm currently in the midst of an act of poaching (not of the highest order -- the relationship was deteriorating prior to my entering the picture). Am I a bad person? Am I unwittingly taunting the laws of Karma? Or does this "no poaching" rule allow a little leeway?

--Didn't Think I Was A Bad Guy, But...

Dear Didn't Think,

Well, let's say you start dating your current poachee, or whomever. After a while, things start "deteriorating." Then some random guy enters the picture and starts macking on your girl.

Now is all fair?

That is all. Anything else would require a joke about your karma, my dogma, and a speedbump.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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