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[This letter = previous dance as teaching tool.]

Dear Breakup Girl,

I am 13 and last month I was dating Chrissy. But anyway, at the Valentine's Dance and there were some things that went wrong and she wound up dumping me there. What happened was that I didn't want to dance with her on "dance" songs because I suck at dancing and I only wanted to dance with her on the slow, romantic songs. None played for like 2 hours and by then she was angry and the tension grew. Also, she told lies about what happened and now my friendships with others became jeopardized due to her stories. What should I do? Thanks.

-- Sean

Dear Sean,

Oh, kiddo. The "dance" thing is stressful, isn't it? But while I won't heartlessly shove you onto the floor if it pains you, I will tell you this: it's likely that

(a) a girl who likes you for you -- and not your boogaloo -- will prefer to dance, no matter how much you "suck," as it's part of feeling paid attention to as your date; and

(b) you look no worse out there than most of your friends.

Speaking of whom, what's the deal with friends who believe Lying Girl over you? Tell them the truth once and for all; then stay above it. And save the next dance for someone you like so much, you don't care how you look, as long as you're with her.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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