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Just So You Know

Jen writes:

Having just been through a tough breakup myself, I feel these people's pain...but I have to rant and rave about something for just a sec! I can't tell you ( and I probably don't need to tell you) how many letters I've read where people moan and groan about bad and occasionally destructive relationships and the effect it is having on their life... but then they add in: "But the sex is great ... fantastic...mindblowing... etc." as a reason why they stay with this person! Now I have had great sex with people I haven't loved..and average sex with people I have loved..and vice versa (Thank Goodness) and yes...sex can be all those things and more! But the point is that no matter how great it is...that fifteen minutes...hour... whatever..is NEVER worth giving up everything you have (including your self-respect) ...everything you have ever worked for..everything you want out of life... for a roll in the proverbial hay, etc. Great sex is just that..not a reason for living..not a reason for staying in a bad relationship...not an excuse to do stupid and harmful things to yourself and those who love you!! A bad relationship is a bad relationship and sex is not a magical potion that makes all that go away! People who think otherwise don't need to get laid...they need to get a clue :) Thanks and keep up the good work!

Homecoming Heaven (formerly Homecoming Hell) writes:

Hey, Breakup Girl. You told me to write you back and tell you what happened...good news! I let the word out to one of my friends that happens to drive him to school every morning, and she convinced him to ask me! As far as I know he actually wants to go with me, and doesn't have a problem with it. I think we're even going to dinner beforehand (big step)! Thanks a lot for your advice!

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