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Dear Breakup Girl,
I really like this guy -- should I ask him out? Or should I wait until he
does?
--Confused
Dear Confused,
There's something to be said for waiting. Not because I think we should go back
to the time when girls didn't ask guys out, there were no women in Congress,
etc. But because it's fun to get asked out! It's flattering! It's thrilling!
(Unless your suitor is that weird boy who wears shorts year-round, even in
winter. You know the one.) And, more often than not, it's useful -- when he
makes the first move, your preliminary guesswork is over: you know he's
interested, or at least "curious" (my term for one notch below
"interested").
But the same goes both ways. If you really want to be
all you -go-girl about it, well then, you go, girl. Ask him out. Once. If he's
busy (or "busy"), you've at least made your point. Ball's in his
court now. You don't have time to chase or flatter. You've got to work on that
bid for Congress.
Love,
Breakup Girl
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