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Dear Breakup Girl,

In senior year, high school, I made friends with a guy named Jeff. I was trying to talk to this one girl that I was fascinated with, Kim, and they were friends. He helped me a lot to get with her on a higher level, but it just never worked out. All we ever became was friends.

During all this, Jeff also introduced me to another person, Roxanne. We got along great as friends and even established a relationship as "Brother" and "Sister." Later, we found out that we had this unnatural bond between us. Everyday, we both would feel great to see each other and just hug each other...followed by a kiss on the cheek from her.

Later on, I found out that she was having a problem with her boyfriend out of town and Jeff began to like her. She had told me that Jeff was a good friend, and she didn't want to lose that. He had told me he confessed his feelings for her, and if she didn't accept, it would be too painful to be friends. Reluctantly, she accepted. But during their relationship, she was hanging out with me more and more. We had never talked on the phone before, but during this time, we began to. Jeff didn't like this....so they would have arguments. One night, she finally confessed that she's liked me all along. Yeah, you can imagine how I felt.

As time went on, we would talk and write more and more letters to each other. I was confused. I didn't know what I was doing. And yes, I had developed feelings for her too. But I felt bad for Jeff at the same time. Soon, Jeff found out about us...and so we stopped seeing each other. A few months later, we went together to prom, Roxanne and Jeff, me and Kim...one big group. During one of the songs, she and I danced, and didn't want to let go. We knew what each other was feeling.

Now I can't stop thinking of her. She does complete me. She's even told me from time to time that have this bond. What's even harder for me is...I even helped her get back together with one of her ex's. I helped them to the limit, until the day they broke up due to so many arguments. (Not about me.) Please, help me Breakup Girl. I really want to be with her, but I can't tell if she still has feelings for me. She would call me her "bro" once in a while -- are my chances gone? Because, well, do you believe in Fate and Destiny? It's really weird. She and I have this thing with calling each other on our pagers. She would page me with 333. That would mean I LOVE YOU. Now, I can't stop seeing it. Example: I buy a pizza and a drink. $3.33. Big rig truck drives by. Number on it: 1-800-333-2943. Play poker...I get a pair of 2's, and 3 3's. I play a video game, my final score was 333. Please, tell me what I should do. I'm a goner, ain't I?

--Adam

Dear Adam,

Oh, kiddo. Here's the thing about Roxanne and Jeff. Either she's telling you the exact truth -- in words and numbers -- or she's telling you some of the truth. Where the part she's not saying is that she LIKElikes you both, but the stuff about "accepting" Jeff's feelings to keep his friendship was a blow-cushioner for you. I really don't know. Still, Fate and Destiny aside, you see what you want to see. And since you clearly want to see 333 so badly, well, there's your answer. You are getting mixed messages, numerical and otherwise, and you're entitled to see how they all add up. So I'd greenlight your asking her how she feels, and what she thinks she can -- or you all should -- do about it. Now remember, you may hear the worst, so do brace your bad self. But go ahead, or you start seeing 333 in 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9. I'd rather hear about your being someone's #1. Good luck.

Love,
Breakup Girl

 
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