Opening a dialog on October 5, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

My husband and I have both been previously married. My problem is the marriage just isn’t what I thought it would be. His family has never accepted me or my 2 girls & he let’s his ex wife push us around with regards to his 2 children (we have shared custody). This has been going on for 6 years and I don’t see any end in sight. I guess I should also mention that my girls’ biological father rarely sees them, so it would be great if their step-father (husband #2) would actually make an effort to be a father figure with them, but he doesn’t. He is very quiet & brooding. He barely speaks to them, & my youngest (8 years) really needs a daddy. So you see after 6 yrs together you’d think we’d have all of this looked after, but he is the type of guy that just sweeps everything under the carpet in hopes it will all go away. Well it hasn’t & now I think I need to get out. I love him, but I believe that love isn’t enough anymore.

I need help, I have tried to talk to him about splitting up, but he just begs me to give it another shot.

Can you help me????

— Mackenzie

Dear Mackenzie,

Hey, anyone remember that Monty Python sketch that takes place (I think) on a quiz show …

HOST: Name a country where they don’t play tennis at all well.
CONTESTANT: Australia?
HOST: No, try again.
CONTESTANT: Australia?

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Pretty hopeless on August 24, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

Me and Mr. Perfect have been dating for eleven months. But I guess I should explain to you what all went on during those months, the best ones of my life. We met one day in advanced drama where I was actually trying to hook him up with someone else. But then I started to get to know him and I really don’t know why we didn’t notice each other sooner, as perfect as we fit together. He shared many of the same interests….we both acted and modeled and even had the same agency representing us. He was Mr. Popular who every girl dreamed of (his looks and charm told why) and I was Head Cheerleader and class President. He modeled for Tommy and I was on the verge of a job for CK Jeans. Everyone thought we were the PERFECT couple, and at first, I did too. We even acted together, often starring opposite each other. In the school’s major production I was Juliet and he was Romeo.

But you know how high school works, as soon as people start getting jealous the rumors start flying!!! All across the school we were known for everything from sleeping together to modeling in nude photos. It didn’t bother me as much as it did him. He became obsessed with his ego, and when I confronted him about it, he denied it. We decided it best if we broke up for a bit to get the rumors off our backs. They were hurting our relationship too much. We got to the point where we were scared to talk to each other in class, in fear someone might start something from it. Soon our reps were cleared and we started going back out. We loved each other so much it was hard to keep apart. But then he started seeing other chicks. At first it was just an occassional “friend” over at his house (which doesn’t bother me at all), but it worked up to where he was skipping dates with me to spend weekends at their condos and resorts.

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MSN.com, Match.com, HappenMagazine.com: they’re in a healthy and satisfying 3-way relationship. Meaning that you can find MSN/Match.com’s “Ask Lynn” columns –penned by BG’s alter ego — over at Happen now as well.

This week Lynn advises a Confused Soul who is wondering if she can make things work with a guy she met online that is an admitted online flirt. In fact, they broke up over it, but now …

Now it seems he wants to revive things with me. He says he never cheated on me or really liked anyone. He says he talks to tons of girls during a typical week but that doesn’t mean anything.

Should she give him another shot? Read the letter at Happen along with Lynn’s advice, then come back here to comment!

Going back for seconds on January 12, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

My ex-boyfriend and I split up three months ago after being together for a year. We split up because he was confused, and I was too dependent on him for stability. Since we’ve broken up, I’ve gained a lot of self-esteem that I used to leech off of him, and we’ve been spending some time together. Although I don’t NEED him, I still care about him and have fun with him. He seems to enjoy himself, too. I’ve dated other men, but I’m just happier around my ex. When we’re together, it’s just relaxed and fun. Now I’m wondering if perhaps we should give our relationship another chance. Do you think this healthy?

— Amy

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