Picking the scab on August 24, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend of nearly 6 years broke up with me [nine months ago]…it was hard, but I’ve made good progress in putting my life back together. Except I found out a couple of days ago that he has a new serious girlfriend (they went to Antigua together). Now I can’t stop thinking about our breakup…this little bit of information has re-opened the whole emotional wound that had been healing. Do I just wait it out, knowing (somewhere in my logical brain) that the hurt will fade? I had been surfing through one of the personals sites linked to this site, but now I feel like maybe I’m not ready to meet someone new. Help!

— Just K

Dear K,

Antigua!? Of course you’re smarting. Which does NOT mean that you’re not healing. Surf on, dude.

Love,
Breakup Girl