Weighty issues on August 10, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

Okay. Here is my question. I am 17 years old and have had 2 boyfriends, but not for over a year. I would like a boyfriend for obvious reasons, but there isn’t really anyone out there who’s right for me. Also, I am wondering if weighing more than 140 pounds (chubby, but not obese, by any means) makes it harder to get someone. If I wait until college, when I will find the right guy? Will he want me? What will people think if I end up 30 and unmarried, 40 and unmarried…?

— Just Asking

Dear Just Asking,

I don’t know what people will think, but I do know that people who are 30 and unmarried, 40 and unmarried…just fell out of their seats over the fact that a 17-year-old asked that question. Oh, sweetie, please don’t worry; you are right on schedule. About the weight, well, the reality is that, yes, in the age of Kate Moss, it may be harder (at square one) for you to get someone. If you choose to shift to a lower-weight lifestyle for health and fitness, be my guest. But Muriel, don’t let me catch you dieting to fit into that wedding dress you saw in a magazine.

Love,
Breakup Girl

Here, your weekly installment of Ask Lynn, BG’s alter ego’s column at MSN.com (powered by Match.com). This week, we meet “Never Had a Boyfriend,” who … well, you know. What she has had are plenty of hookups. But how to upgrade from “casual” to … formal? Read her whole letter, and Lynn’s advice (hint: let something develop before you wind up squashed on some couch) and then come back here to comment!

Bonus: for much, much more advice to other Never-Had-Boyfriends — and Never-Had-Girlfriends — click here, and here. You are so not alone. I mean, okay, maybe you are right now, but really, you are so not.