Pretty hopeless on August 24, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

Me and Mr. Perfect have been dating for eleven months. But I guess I should explain to you what all went on during those months, the best ones of my life. We met one day in advanced drama where I was actually trying to hook him up with someone else. But then I started to get to know him and I really don’t know why we didn’t notice each other sooner, as perfect as we fit together. He shared many of the same interests….we both acted and modeled and even had the same agency representing us. He was Mr. Popular who every girl dreamed of (his looks and charm told why) and I was Head Cheerleader and class President. He modeled for Tommy and I was on the verge of a job for CK Jeans. Everyone thought we were the PERFECT couple, and at first, I did too. We even acted together, often starring opposite each other. In the school’s major production I was Juliet and he was Romeo.

But you know how high school works, as soon as people start getting jealous the rumors start flying!!! All across the school we were known for everything from sleeping together to modeling in nude photos. It didn’t bother me as much as it did him. He became obsessed with his ego, and when I confronted him about it, he denied it. We decided it best if we broke up for a bit to get the rumors off our backs. They were hurting our relationship too much. We got to the point where we were scared to talk to each other in class, in fear someone might start something from it. Soon our reps were cleared and we started going back out. We loved each other so much it was hard to keep apart. But then he started seeing other chicks. At first it was just an occassional “friend” over at his house (which doesn’t bother me at all), but it worked up to where he was skipping dates with me to spend weekends at their condos and resorts.

I totally flipped out. The first weekend he did it to me I threw myself on other guys, acting completely insane. Then I went through the “kill with kindness” stage where I continuously told him how much he meant to me and ignored his other girlfriends. But this made him think he could get away with anything. He got worse and finally told me he wasn’t sure if he loved me anymore. So I said forget it. He wasn’t worth worrying over anyways, or was he??

Next thing I know I’m getting phone calls saying he wants me back. Flowers show up at my door from an un-marked “lover” but just the way he worded the note I knew they were from him. But I don’t know what to do. Our relationship certainly had its ups and downs — and with us going back to school this year, I’m worried he might start in with his ego trip again. But I guess the problem is I love him so much, even after all that. My friends tell me to forget him and that I could have any other guy in school. But I only want HIM. What should I do???

— Wishing-it-was-perfect

Dear Wishing,

You know your relationship is in trouble if you meet in “Advanced Drama.” I’m just saying.

And I’m not really sure what you mean specifically by the “ego trip” thing. But despite his cavorting, it does sound to me like you guys could have something genuine going on somewhere inside this Aaron Spelling soap. I’d say give him one more chance; put him on probation. He cancels one too many dates, you cast another Romeo.

Love,
Breakup Girl