Dear Breakup Girl,

Best wishes from a core, real, die-hard Green Bay Packer Fan-esque fan.

I have had a few long term relationships (a few years each) but none for a while. I have never had a problem meeting women or even going on a date or two, but recently I haven’t been able to keep a long termer. I am in many ways too much of a friend for some women, but I am working on that. No one seems to set me up with anyone even though everyone claims they know someone I should go out with.

OK. Let’s get down to brass tacks. A platonic friend of mine (yet another who says I am too much of a friend, but I would make a good husband) took me out with a bunch of her friends just to hang out. I met a woman who was not only beautiful and friendly, but connected with me in a great, all beit non romantic way. Let’s call her Beth, because that’s her name. There was one small problem. She has a boyfriend whom she loves. So, she was clearly hands off, and I treated it as such. I told our mutual friend, Rhonda, that I have a huge crush on Beth. She thought it was cute and told Beth. I don’t mind. She’s flattered. I get a nice feeling that I made her feel beautiful and special, knowing DAMN WELL that nothing will come of this.

Well, Beth and her man are going through tough times. Real tough times. And Rhonda, our mutual friend, has always used my flattery as a way to cheer her up. “George thinks you are beautiful. He thinks this and that etc etc etc.” Rhonda, who dislikes Beth’s boyfriend, has been subtly pushing my case. In other words she wants Beth to leave her boyfriend and hook up with me. I of course said “I don’t want to be in the middle of anything.” But secretly I wanted her to. Now I know she has been suggesting that Beth take me a little more seriously while her relationship with her man gets tense. And I am guiltily encouraging it.

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Going the distance on November 9, 1998…

Dear Breakup Girl,

I really like this guy I met at a friend’s house this weekend! I think he likes me too (his friend kinda hinted he wanted to hook up with me… plus he gave me extra M&Ms for Halloween, more than anyone else!) He’s so perfect for me! The only problem — he lives about 5 hours away from me ! I think it could work anyway though, I’ll be up there almost every other weekend. What do you think? HELP…I really like this guy!!!

— Jasmine

Dear Jasmine,

M&Ms make friends, but they don’t make miles shorter. If you happen to be up there, sure, see what happens. But I hope and bet that you’ll find someone closer to home who’ll melt your heart.

Love,
Breakup Girl