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Dear Breakup Girl,

How can I get guys to realize that just because I have glasses doesn't mean I'm a geek? Without my glasses on I look really pretty, because everyone has told me that. Help me shake some sense into these boys!

-- Meghan

Dear Meghan,

IF it is at all true that Men Don't Make Passes at Girls Who Wear Glasses, then it's not because they make you look bad, it's because they make you look ... smart. This is ridiculous on many levels. We all know that glasses do not equal brains (I mean, look at Velma. She has glasses, and that still doesn't mean she's smart enough to... get contacts). Also, even if this stereotype were true, you'd think these boys would be psyched to date someone smart; perhaps, however, they are needlessly intimidated. Maybe they think you read more than them and they're afraid that you'll make all of these witty literary references ("I thought the book 'I Know What You Did Last Summer' was better than the movie") that will go straight over their heads. What-ever.

All there is to do, practically speaking, is just make sure your glasses are flattering and work well with your face. Like hats, or certain styles of clothing, some look good on some people, some don't. This has nothing to do with who's model-thin, or conventionally pretty -- it's more cosmic than that. Go to the store and play around with some frames. If you start feeling unsatisfied with the ones you have now, start saving up.

Also keep in mind that some guys LOVE women in glasses just aesthetically, the same way they might love redheads or women with freckles. And vice-versa.

And finally, after all that, it may not be the glasses at all. You may be wondering, "Hey, I'm pretty cool, but I don't have a boyfriend, and all my friends do, and none of them has glasses....!?" You put 20/20 together, and voila... but the fact of the matter is, it may just be that you don't happen to have a boyfriend right now. Someone will come along who likes what he sees, I promise.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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