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Dear Breakup Girl,

I am very close to one of my guy friends. He is one of those very friendly, touchy, huggy guys, who is wonderfully nice to everyone. Well, over the past months I have developed very strong feelings for him. I think about him all the time. A few days ago I couldn't deal with it anymore so I told him I couldn't see, talk, or be around him anymore because I had feelings for him. He was stunned. It's been over a week and I haven't seen him. The problem is that I REALLY miss him and now I just feel depressed. What should I do? I feel like I'll always love him. It's getting in the way of meeting new people. Now I'm wondering if I did the right thing.

-- Jenna

Dear Jenna,

Oh, girlie, I don't know if you did the "Right" thing, but I do know that you did what felt right at the time. And now, yes, of course you miss him. It's almost like you're going through a breakup with someone you didn't even get to go out with! I guess what you're gonna have to figure out is, which sucks less: not being WITHwith him, or not being with him at all? If he is indeed as generous with his heart as he is with his touchy huggy extremities -- and indeed I bet he is -- I'm sure he'd understand if you went back to him and told him that you don't want things to stay this way. Which reminds me: you say he was stunned -- are you quite sure he's not interested? Or did you just freak out and split before you had a opportunity to see the gears turning? It's worth looking into. But if not, well then yes: you do need to lick your wounds, mourn, and smart for a while, and then get back out and try and meet new folks, no matter what. That's the right thing.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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