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Dear Breakup Girl,

I am very shy. I know I'm not pretty or anything but I'm 16 and never had a boyfriend. I have low self-esteem and that is why I've been told I can't get a boyfriend, and the guys I like never like me back -- they always like the skinny show-all types. My friend who is pretty, all the guys stare at her. My question is how to attract the guy I am interested in without changing myself.

-- Depressed

Dear Depressed,

Staring and liking are not the same. "Skinny show-all" and "self-esteem" aren't either. But otherwise, you're on the right track: don't you dare change -- or show -- a thing. And no, don't just "be yourself, blah blah blah" -- be even more of yourself. Do the stuff you love; really really enjoy it; be good at it. Excellent boys will not stare; they will notice.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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