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Dear Breakup Girl,

Hmmmm...well, first it took me forever just to get up the nerve to write to a cartoon character, and then Lucy had her "not seeing any silly geekgirls" sign out at the psychiatric booth, so here I am, sending an urgent missive to Breakup Girl.

I'm Breakup List fodder for sure, I suppose. I live with my bf of 2.5 years; he likes me only marginally, sometimes, and totally ignores me the rest of the time. He won't even have sex with me unless it's dark and, I'm not making this up, he has a pillow over his face.

I am completely amazed that I put up with this, but here I am, snug in my routine and having a difficult time removing myself from what is a most crappy situation. What I need is something to inspire me to get out. Now. Any suggestions? What is the best Leaving Procedure? I haven't done this before! Thanks!

-- Geek Without a Clue

Dear Geek,

Lucy doesn't know what she's talking about, anyway. Plus I'll save you a nickel.

You want Inspiration? Get out now, and you stand a chance of having an actual boyfriend one of these days. Or just... being content, with or without a side of Boy. What BG is guessing is that: that you have, buried in your psyche, some idea that you don't deserve -- or will never do -- better. WRONG. I'm saying that not only to be perky and positive, but also because, well, it's hard to imagine doing worse.

You want Procedure? Say: "I'm moving out. You can keep the pillows."

Love,
Breakup Girl

P.S. I really don't mean to be flip, but it -- the actual Procedure, anyway -- is that simple. You need help dealing with Aftermath, you write me back.

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