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Dear Breakup Girl,
For some reason, whenever I meet someone that I find cute and interesting, we always end up buddies when I would like more! How do I get past this and not feel rejected -- and not lose a good friend?
-- Everyone's Buddy

Dear Everyone's Buddy,
See, Jilted Guy (letter above)?! This is the girl version of the Nice Guy thing --- and yeah, it smarts. Wouldn't it be nice, once in a while, to be intoxicatingly mysterious, to have men come up to you and say, "Friends, schmends, I must be your lover!" instead of "Hey, buddy, howaboutta game of horse?"

But try thinking of it this way: maybe there's nothing wrong at all. Maybe, for some cosmic reason, you just happen to be the kind of person for whom serious relationships start out as -- and develop most soundly from -- friendship. If you trust that this will naturally evolve when it "should," you'll be playing a mean game of horse with your devoted hubby while Miss Tedious -- I mean, Miss Terious -- wishes she had more true friends.
Love,
Breakup Girl

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